Weight Loss: 36 Pounds (so far . . .)

Back in March i began a concerted effort to drop some weight. Now, like everyone else, i’ve done this before only to regain the weight right back plus more, so i had been looking for something different, as in not a diet, but rather an approach to eating which i could sustain.

I started in March weighing 280 lbs. and as of today, i’m at 244. That’s a number i haven’t seen on a scale in about 20 years.

Here’s what i want this post to accomplish:

  • Explain the lifestyle change i’m taking
  • Give examples of things which have changed
  • Talk about my discoveries along the path so far
  • Tell you what has surprised me
  • Give you my experiences about things i thought would be harder than they are
  • Leave you with some resources in case any of you want to give this a try

Please don’t form any conclusions until you’ve read through this post completely. I know that as soon as you read the next section, you may well think “I could never do that!”

So here we go! This is not something which you buy, enroll in, pay for, or attend any meetings about.


OMAD stands for One Meal A Day, though technically it’s not exactly that. It’s based on a concept known as intermittent fasting. Now, come out from under the table while i explain what this really is. The word “fasting” tends to cause extreme reactions in many people with thoughts of deprivation, starvation, torture, monks and saints, etc, etc. This is not that.

What people are discovering and studies are just beginning to show, is that positive changes occur in your body chemistry and your metabolism when you can go for a period of time without eating. Chief among the changes are a lessening of insulin resistance (which is the cause of type 2 diabetes).  OMAD is not a cure for type 2 diabetes, so i’m not riding on the wacko train. However, it does improve your diabetes significantly and my doctor will vouch for that. I’ll talk about my last doctor visit in a few minutes.

If you’re saying “I don’t have diabetes”, that’s fine. OMAD will help you lose weight, and be healthier. If you do have diabetes, OMAD will help with your battle to control your blood sugars.

Here’s how it works:

The magic happens when you go for at least 18 hours without eating anything. Personally, i go for 20 hours. You set a single block of time during which you eat every day. I’ve set my eating time to be either between 5 and 9 p.m. or between 6 and 10 p.m. Others have chosen a different time frame, but the actual time does not matter at all. During that window, i will eat my one meal for the day and perhaps have a snack. The rest of the day i don’t eat or drink anything with calories. This means you can drink all you want of non-caloric things like black coffee, unsweet tea (with an artificial sweetener if you want), water, diet sodas etc. Personally, i gave up all forms of artificial sweeteners years ago. They tend to trigger or exacerbate my problems with headaches. I drink water and unsweet tea. I’ve never been a coffee drinker, but i won’t hold that against the rest of you.

The problem of hunger:

We have to address the very large elephant in the middle of the room.

The reason i chose this eating method is because after 61 years, i’ve finally come to the conclusion (i tend to be slow on acknowledging the obvious) that diets don’t work for me because i have no control whatever over how much i eat. I simply can not eat just one cookie or 5 potato chips. I have always been hungry and if i am eating because of my hunger, then i want to eat until i’m not hungry. That’s the way you end up weighing 280 pounds.

Since i have never been able to control how much i eat, instead i now am controlling when i eat. I only eat between 5 and 9 p.m. You’re thinking, “doesn’t that mean you get hungry when you are not in your eating window?” Absolutely. I have learned that while i am unable to eat just one cookie, i can absolutely eat no cookies. Any time i get hungry outside my eating window, i just tell myself “hang in there, you can eat your fill in a few more hours.” In other words, i can say no and that works, but i can’t say “just eat a celery stick” because when i do that, i’m still hungry. If i eat enough to not be hungry, then i end up at 280 pounds. So i accept the hunger and stick with the plan and the pounds just keep dropping off.

It’s been over 4 months and the hunger is less than before, but it’s still there and i’m ok with that. In fact, it actually feels really, really good to realize that i can now control a part of my life which has been uncontrollable for 61 years.

BTW, the hunger does not grow or get worse. It pops up, i acknowledge that i’m hungry, drink some water and go back to what i was doing.

Here are the pluses:

  • I have achieved control over an area of my life i could not control
  • I am having a victory every day instead of a defeat
  • My weight continues to drop every week (sometimes more, sometimes only a fraction of a pound)
  • My blood pressure has come down and i expect to be able to decrease my blood pressure meds as my weight decreases
  • My HbA1c (a measure of blood sugar) has gone from 6.7 to 5.6 which is miraculous
  • I am taking only half the insulin i was taking before
  • I have more energy
  • Because i don’t have to stop and eat for breakfast and lunch, i have more time to do other things
  • And best of all: my mind is clearer. Blood sugar spikes and dips play havoc with your ability to think clearly

Some details:

  • Do not weigh yourself every day. Once or maybe twice a week is all you need.
  • Weight loss is not linear. One week you may lose 4 pounds and another week you might gain a half a pound. This is a long term process.
  • Once you’ve done OMAD for a month, you can allow yourself a splurge day every 2 or 3 weeks. A day when you might eat 2 meals and have a sweet desert
  • I’ve found that i make more progress when i eliminate (mostly) bread and things with sugar.
  • I have discovered that nuts help tremendously. They are healthy and they are filling, and that is normally my evening snack.

Questions i’ve been asked:

What about when you go out to lunch with friends or church has a pot luck dinner after the morning service?

I’ve discovered that it isn’t hard at all to just sit and be a part of the group and the conversation and not eat. In fact, i think i participate better when my mind isn’t thinking about eating and going back for seconds or what i want for desert.

Don’t you feel deprived or like you are in prison?

This is the best part! The opposite is true. I feel like i have freedom from food and i feel in control instead of being driven by my hunger. It’s actually a wonderful feeling.

How to start:

I’m going to recommend you do exactly what i did. Go to this youtube channel and watch these videos This is just a guy who has lost a LOT of weight, telling how he did it and giving you the basics. This is not a company, it’s not a book, it isn’t anything but a guy helping you do what he has done. I’ve subscribed to his youtube channel, which is totally free. This is a playlist of 8 videos. Each one is between 2 minutes and 14 minutes long. You are going to notice that this guy is not going to dazzle you with his videos. He’s just a plain, down to earth guy.

Please ask any questions you have in the comment area below. My goal is to get down to 200 pounds. When i lose 4 more pounds i’ll be halfway there. What do i do when i reach my goal? I’m sticking with eating one meal a day. It’s too good a life style for me to quit it. However, i’ll add some bread or sweets back into my eating once i get there. Or who knows, maybe i’ll shoot for a lower number.

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Life Changes

This week Jan and I began the process of adopting our grandson’s half-sister, Hailey. Hailey lived with us for more than 4 years when she was younger, but then her mom got into drugs and other things and she’s been passed around from relative to relative for the past few years, never really having a home. We wanted to adopt her last year, but she was in the foster care system and we couldn’t work it out, but now things have fallen into place and we’ve begun the process which hopefully will be finalized in the next few months. Meanwhile, during this process she will get to live with us beginning sometime in mid-March.

This is Hailey and Dylan making Christmas cookies with Jan this year

Hailey is 8 and in second grade and Dylan, who is Aaron’s son, is 4 and they’re great friends. We’ve been getting Hailey on weekends for the past year. Aaron has full custody of Dylan now. Dylan’s mom is also Hailey’s mom, but Jan, Aaron and I have no blood relation to Hailey. Nevertheless, we’ve loved her since she was 1-year-old and are very excited that Dylan and his sister will now be able to grow up together.

This is Hailey and Dylan at Dylan’s 4th Birthday party at Chuck E. Cheese

Right now, our biggest concern/problem, is that we need to get a 4 bedroom house so that Hailey can have her own room. The adoption people will allow Dylan and Hailey to share a room for the rest of this year, but she needs her own room before January 1, 2018. We’d appreciate your prayers and also any networking help you might be able to provide as we look for a house to move into by year-end. Our lease goes through December 31, and they will not let us out of our lease without paying a substantial penalty.

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Bob Jones University: The Good, The Bad, and the Very Ugly – Pt. 4

This is the last of four posts about Bob Jones University. This post is easily the most difficult topic and i have held off posting it for quite some time.

I attended Bob Jones University from 1973 through 1977 and graduated with a B.S. in Broadcast Engineering and a minor in Mathematics.

The first post focussed on a few of the good aspects of the school. The second post focused on two of the bad aspects of the school. The third post and this one move into the area of the ugly things about Bob Jones University. Links to all the previous posts i’ve made about Bob Jones University are at the bottom of this post.


Bob Jones University has been accused of protecting those who have perpetrated sexual abuse and when counseling the victims of sexual abuse, protecting the offenders while also shifting the guilt for the abuse on to the victims. Bob Jones University eventually hired a third party organization to objectively investigate these claims. Part way through the investigation, BJU fired the organization, and then months later re-hired the organization. In December of 2014 the GRACE organization released its report on these allegations. More than a year has gone by since the report was issued and the response to the report by the administration of Bob Jones University has been considered to be unsatisfactory by those who were victims of the sexual abuse. To get the full details and background of the allegations, the full GRACE report and what has occurred since the report was released, I recommend the web site: BJUGrace.com

The response by BJU one year later

I have obtained permission from the BJUGrace website to repost in its entirety their blog post on this issue. Here is a link to the original post and the entire text of the post itself.

A Year After The GRACE Report

A year after the GRACE report

On December 10th of 2014, the GRACE report on Bob Jones University was released. BJU’s response to the report was less than satisfactory, but we continued to hope. After 90 days they responded again, and our hope diminished, but several brave souls still went to speak with Steve Pettit at his invitation, to try to help him understand.

As time passed, we began to see that though some changes were being made, huge issues were still failing to be addressed. The primary issues identified in the GRACE report were being disregarded, and some false information disseminated. In September we heard an interview in which Bob Jones III dismissed the GRACE report as insignificant, stating that it made the school look good.

About a week before that interview, one of the people who had been victimized spoke on the phone with the current vice president. At that time she became convinced that though he asked to meet with her, he had no intentions of acknowledging the truth or making any changes to the counseling belief system. She then wrote a letter to him and the vice president.

In the last few days, she learned that BJU had invited and welcomed back on campus the mission board, named in the GRACE report, that is still shielding the man who had confessed to sexually assaulting her as a student. She then asked us to post the letter that she wrote in September. Here it is.

Dear Marshall Franklin and Steve Pettit,

This letter is in response to the recent conversation I had with Marshall Franklin and the request to meet with Steve Pettit. I have been thinking and praying about whether it would be beneficial or not to do so. At this point in time, I don’t see meeting as being beneficial for the school or for me. From my perspective, there is nothing I can say to help Mr. Pettit or any one else at the school gain understanding, especially since the GRACE report itself was so clear, but wasn’t accepted. For myself, I see it as something that would very likely leave me feeling additional hurt, and I’m not in a position to absorb more hurt right now.

Prior to BJU’s response to the GRACE report, I made numerous attempts to talk with Mr. Pettit. I wanted to do so for his benefit and for the benefit of the school. He chose not to permit me to have any access to talk with him. That was his choice and he had a right to make that choice, however, he DID have the opportunity to talk with me. I would have gladly spoken with him over the phone or even met with him had he permitted it at that time.

When the school finally publicly responded to the GRACE report, the response was deeply wounding to so many of us. Please understand that when I am referring to his response, I am referring to his initial, public response, the second response that was made solely to the current student body and also the response that was made privately in faculty meetings. In addition to his words, the school has responded by not protecting current students from the teachings of Mr. and Mrs. Berg, Mr. Mazak, Mr. Minnick and many others who have taught horrific views of sexual abuse. Berg’s books are still in the campus bookstore.

The school has also indicated that records were destroyed that could have potentially been used to convict offenders. While this may have been within the school’s legal rights, I do not believe that that decision was honoring to God or ethically and morally right in any way. It is inexcusable.

I don’t think the school has even the smallest grasp of understanding the enormity of damage that has been caused. I understand that your primary focus is on protecting the school and maintaining the support of your constituents, but it would seem that there is a way to do that, while at the same time, speaking truth and repenting of wrongdoing. I look around at some of those who endured the unbiblical counsel after their sexual abuse and I see a field of carnage of broken people who were deeply humiliated, and cast out from any hope of God’s love. I look at them and wonder what is preventing you from being able to see. These are men and women who trusted the school enough to ask for help. Most of them have not been able to shake off the horrible and unbiblical things they were taught. They still suffer. We still suffer.

You may not want to see the level of devastation that was done, but I believe you both have daughters. Would you hear them if they had gone through these experiences? Would you send them to a counselor who would shame them, ask them about the pleasure they had received while being raped, ask them what sin they must have had in their life for this to happen? Would you leave her with the guilt and shame that belongs to the rapist, and NOT to his victim? Would you permit “biblical” counselors to tell her how she no longer has worth? While there may have been some surface changes, such as Berg not teaching his previous load of counseling classes, those are just token changes when the others are still teaching the same content.

I have no ability to bring conviction or repentance. I am not God. I did what I could to speak directly to the school when the school was in the process of making these decisions. Now, however, those decisions have been made and it isn’t something I can change. I am deeply saddened by the response – for the victims, for the offenders and their future potential victims and for the school itself. However, it is not within my ability to influence the school to change. I don’t believe that the school leadership is ready to face the truth. At the very least, the school deeply shamed victims while protecting perpetrators. I struggle to understand this, to understand why and to understand what that means. The student who raped me has been repeatedly referred to as a “godly” man.

Sometimes, I wonder if those making the decisions and/or those counseling are actually believers. While that is a bit confusing for me to consider, it matches biblically the warnings in the New Testament about false prophets who claim to do good in God’s name, but in secret, they destroy the people of God. The response by BJU over the past nine months, since the report became public, does not display in any way that those in leadership at the school are followers of God. All I’ve seen is self-preservation. You could easily have helped victims in prosecuting offenders. Instead, the records were “purged” based on your attorneys’ recommendations. What purpose did that serve? Perhaps it protected the school, but to what end?

For the most part, I am choosing to leave this in God’s hands and pray that he will convict the hearts of those whose teaching is unbiblical and harmful. I pray that he will bring them each to a place of repentance where they will openly acknowledge the harm they have done and ask for forgiveness. If the school wants to know the opinions of those who were so deeply traumatized, the GRACE report tells our stories. It also gives suggestions as to how to start addressing these things. I believe that the steps they outlined are just beginning steps and they should have been taken within weeks of receiving the report. Now, nine months or so have passed and nothing significant has changed.

I don’t know if you can possibly comprehend the deep grief of those who feel again used and cast aside. We don’t understand why you asked us to participate in the investigation, when it doesn’t seem you ever intended to truly hear our stories or do anything significant to change the experiences of those who come behind us.

My offender was actually identified in the report, and I have not seen BJU take a single step towards righting that specific wrong that was done so many years ago. Do you feel no responsibility for the many women and children who he could be potentially sexually abusing on the mission field? Whatever he is doing, he is doing with the degree BJU gave him. Do you not feel any weight of concern regarding the possibility that he has continued to rape others? Do you not feel any remorse for giving him a degree that gives him access to a high degree of trust when he has already shown that he uses his power to rape someone who is unprotected?

I don’t write any of this with anger or bitterness. I write it with sadness and sorrow. I had hoped for so much. I truly believed that God could have used BJU to send a shockwave of change throughout the Christian community. A shockwave of genuine love, genuine humility, genuine repentance that would lead the way for many, MANY to follow. I believed that people would come to know Jesus through your response. Instead, they are being driven further away. We are being driven away.

The Bible so often talks about love being the greatest commandment. In one passage, it lists all the good works that a person can claim. It then ends by saying that without love, those things count for nothing. When I look at BJU and the response to the GRACE report, my heart breaks.As a school, you have accomplished much. In the area of truly loving others, I don’t see anything that looks like genuine love towards others.

There has been one passage of Scripture that has brought me comfort during all of this. It is Ezekiel 34. I hope that you will both read it with open hearts.

As I am able, I will continue to pray for each of you and for the school. I truly want God to do something amazing.

My Summary

Bob Jones University has protected faculty who counseled victims of sexual abuse by placing the blame for the abuse on the victims. It continues to sell books by those counselors. It has made no moves to in any way compensate or help these victims or to punish or ostracize the actual abusers or to change to system which allowed all this to occur. Of the four posts i’ve made about Bob Jones University, this was the most difficult for me to make and the one which makes me most ashamed of my alma mater.

Links to prior posts




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Bob Jones University: The Good, The Bad, and the Very Ugly – Pt. 3

This is the third out of four posts about Bob Jones University. I have decided to make this post exclusively about segregation and racism at BJU and the next post will be about the counseling of victims of sexual abuse and the protection of the perpetrators of that abuse. There is a link at the bottom of this post to the two previous posts.

I attended Bob Jones University from 1973 through 1977 and graduated with a B.S. in Broadcast Engineering and a minor in Mathematics.

The first post focussed on a few of the good aspects of the school. The second post focused on two of the bad aspects of the school. This post and the next will move into the area of the ugly things about Bob Jones University.


This needs some explanation. From its founding until just a few years ago, Bob Jones University was very much a product of its southern roots in Tennessee and South Carolina. I don’t know the history of its racism at the beginning of the school’s founding in 1927, but i am aware of its position in the 1970’s up through when it finally made changes to its policies just a few years ago.

The actual rules of the school when i attended it and up until recently included a specific prohibition against inter-racial dating. This was based on interpretations of two Biblical passages.

The first passage is:

Genesis 9:20–27 (NLT)
After the flood, Noah began to cultivate the ground, and he planted a vineyard. One day he drank some wine he had made, and he became drunk and lay naked inside his tent. Ham, the father of Canaan, saw that his father was naked and went outside and told his brothers. Then Shem and Japheth took a robe, held it over their shoulders, and backed into the tent to cover their father. As they did this, they looked the other way so they would not see him naked.

When Noah woke up from his stupor, he learned what Ham, his youngest son, had done. Then he cursed Canaan, the son of Ham:

“May Canaan be cursed!
May he be the lowest of servants to his relatives.”

Then Noah said,

“May the LORD, the God of Shem, be blessed,
and may Canaan be his servant!
May God expand the territory of Japheth!
May Japheth share the prosperity of Shem,
and may Canaan be his servant.”

If you’ve read Uncle Tom’s Cabin, then you know that this passage was used widely throughout the south as the Biblical justification for slavery by identifying the Negro race as the descendants of Canaan who carried the curse relegating him (and by implication, his descendants) to be servants to his relatives. Now, there is no evidence of any kind to show that Canaan or his descendants were black or that they settled in Africa, but actual evidence is not required when you are trying to justify slavery or racism.

The second Biblical passage supposedly applies even more directly to the prohibition of inter-racial dating. Actually, it is used to prohibit inter-racial marriage, but since dating leads to marriage, the prohibition was applied to dating as well as marriage much the same way as the Pharisees at the time of Jesus took the Old Testament law and made up hundreds of additional rules that were required to be obeyed, not because the scripture said they were necessary, but because these made up rules would keep you from getting close to sinning by breaking the actual Old Testament laws.

Genesis 11:1–9 (NLT)
At one time all the people of the world spoke the same language and used the same words. As the people migrated to the east, they found a plain in the land of Babylonia and settled there.

They began saying to each other, “Let’s make bricks and harden them with fire.” (In this region bricks were used instead of stone, and tar was used for mortar.) Then they said, “Come, let’s build a great city for ourselves with a tower that reaches into the sky. This will make us famous and keep us from being scattered all over the world.”

But the LORD came down to look at the city and the tower the people were building. “Look!” he said. “The people are united, and they all speak the same language. After this, nothing they set out to do will be impossible for them! Come, let’s go down and confuse the people with different languages. Then they won’t be able to understand each other.”

In that way, the LORD scattered them all over the world, and they stopped building the city. That is why the city was called Babel, because that is where the LORD confused the people with different languages. In this way he scattered them all over the world.

The absurdity of using this passage to prohibit inter-racial dating or marriage is extreme because this passage says nothing whatsoever about race. If someone wanted to use this passage as a reason to prohibit some aspect of dating or marriage, then it would have to prohibit dating and marriage between different language groups, not races. That would mean the French could not marry the English or that the Japanese could not marry the Chinese, etc. Since i’ve never seen or heard of those who speak different languages being prohibited from dating or marrying, then clearly applying this to racial issues would be even sillier and more absurd.


Bob Jones University, from its founding up until just a few years ago prohibited inter-racial dating and marriage, purportedly based on biblical reasons, but in reality based on prejudice and the culture of the South. The great harm is that as an institute of higher learning and as a university espousing Biblical principles, it trained its students with this hurtful and unbiblical worldview.

The next and final post about Bob Jones University will concern the shaming through counseling it did to those who were the victims of sexual abuse and the protection it provided and still provides to the abusers.

Here are links to parts one and two of this series about Bob Jones University:



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Aches, Pains, Headaches and Sleep

I wanted to write this post 2 weeks ago, but my wife persuaded me (rightfully so) that I needed to give it a few weeks before writing it.

At my age (60), you find yourself with more aches and pains than you ever thought about in your 30’s. In fact, i kind of wish someone had warned me, not that it would have made any difference, but i would have been less surprised.

My back aches, my shoulders both hurt, my neck is tight as a cliff, and i get a lot of headaches. Sleeping actually makes all of those things worse. For several years now i’ve been waking up with the most pain of the day which would sometimes gradually, slowly, ease somewhat during the day. I don’t think these are unusual symptoms for us older folk. I would also wake up regularly around 4 a.m. with a horrendous headache.

Over the years, i’ve tried many different types of pillows in a search for relief and sleep. We got a sleep number mattress about 10 years ago, which actually does help some. I’ve tried cervical pillows from chiropractors, i’ve tried special high-priced pillows sold at mattress stores like the sleep number store, i’ve tried tempurpedic pillows sold by the Relax The Back Stores (very pricey). The next to last pillow i tried was called a Chiroflow Pillow which was actually half filled with water on the bottom with normal polly fill above that. It helped a little.

Then i heard or read about buckwheat filled pillows. NOT the ones you see on TV. I have a firm policy not to buy things hawked on TV as miracle cures. So i Googled buckwheat hull pillows for varieties and prices and was a bit overwhelmed. Then i Googled reviews of buckwheat hull pillows and that helped. I also, as i always do, checked Amazon because their reviews tend to be mostly honest and reliable.

To my surprise, there seemed to be a substantial consensus that these pillows actually helped with the aches and pains i was experiencing along with the lack of good sleep. I then began investigating differences among the brands, types, styles, etc. I discovered that those manufactured outside of the US were fumigated to kill bugs before being imported. For someone like me who experiences migraines, that was a huge consideration and it quickly eliminated many of the brands.

Based on reviews and information i had gathered i settled on trying a “standard size” (20′ x 26″) Buckwheat filled pillow made by Beans72 which also claimed to be organic (as in not fumigated or pesticided). Beans72 heats the buckwheat hulls to high temperatures to kill the vermin. The price is high for a normal pillow, but much less than some of the other pillows i’ve purchased over the years.

The Good

I could tell the difference the first night. I told Jan that i needed to write a blog post about the pillow. She advised me to wait a few weeks. So, i’m writing the blog post now. After two weeks, i can tell you that I am sleeping much better, more soundly than i have in years. I’ve only awakened once in these 2 weeks with a 4 a.m. headache. I would estimate that my back pain is about 75% less severe in the morning and the pain in both my shoulders is about 50% less. I consider this a great success.

The Downside

There is always a downside. The buckwheat hulls move around inside the pillow case when you move on the pillow. This is noisier than you might think. It takes a little getting used to, though it did not bother me much. Also, the nature of the buckwheat hulls is that they do not compress like foam, feathers, polly or other fillers. To some, the pillow might feel hard. This does not at all bother me, and i found it tremendously helpful for easing the pressure on my shoulders (i mostly sleep on my sides) and on my neck (when i occasionally roll onto my back). I suspect this pillow would not work as well if you sleep on your stomach.

You are able to remove and store some of the buckwheat hulls if you find the pillow to be too filled or hard. I did this the first few nights (it helped me get used to the pillow), but i’ve since put them back in. I suspect that your size/stature might effect how much of the buckwheat hulls you might wish (or not) to remove.

I’m not shilling for Amazon or Beans72. I no longer have affiliate links, so there is no monetary reward for me, but if any of you are interested, this is the pillow i bought. You should probably do your own research before jumping on this bandwagon. This pillow helped me, but your mileage may vary. Also, do not buy a pillow from a TV advertisement.

Beans72 Buckwheat Pillow on Amazon.

I’m sleeping better and feeling better, so i wanted to share this just in case it might help someone else with these aches and pains.

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